complicated but worth it :-)

Oh well..here I am again and not being able to write as much as I would like..but better late than never :-)
Another weekend is here after 2 fun filled weekends with the last one spent in Stockholm visiting an old friend that I haven't seen in over a year.
My trip to Stockholm was a long weekend and had been looking forward to visit my friend for quite a while. Shopping, food, sightseeing, a 3 hour late night phone call, a haircut and lots of catching up was just what I needed.
I have to admit Stockholm is a very charming city, a lot nicer than Oslo.. I wouldn't mind living there instead of here. I'm definitely going back there soon..and hope that my friend will visit me here in Oslo before she moves to California. Had a blast in Stockholm!!!
Then it was back to school, studying, writing a paper and making money on my days off..

Not to forget dating as well...getting back into it.
Realizing you gotta move on and be open and ready to meet that special someone who values you more than a friend but someone quite unique.
The on-line dating is the thing for me since I rarely go out and you just don't meet guys at the grocery store or on the bus to work.
After a few nights out and some dates I came to the conclusion that my dating life isn't bad at all.
A couple of guys that really like you..the one you had an eye on for a while never looked at you as more than a friend..meeting someone who wasn't your "type" but made you rethink many things and while also going on dates with new guys that showed an interest in you.
It shows that things just happen when you least expect it.and shows that I'm worth the attention and affection I want and deserve, without sound cocky..or do I?
Sometimes it's worth taking the risk of being turned down while going after what you want and not what other people think it's good for you. Usually dating is hard since the mutual chemistry isn't there most of the time and the first date also is the last date.
It can also be hard if you know a guy is "great on paper" and really likes you but...you like the person's company but don't feel the spark... you give yourself another chance or two with that person and nothing changes.
That's usually the stories of my dating life..liking the wrong guys that don't appreciate my qualities and the ones that do have what I'm looking for I'm not interested in..and endless circle..
I then end up feeling bad for the ones I'm not "feeling"even though you can't never help the way you feel.
Then out of the blue there's someone not quite your type..once you give the person a chance you see a lot of good qualities beyond the "complicated exterior"..and that maybe this could be the start of something..
It's all in how a person make you feel and the importance of showing you how he/she feels without being afraid of heartache or disappointment..and taking that chance..
I know I'm ready for the attention and affection I crave, without either one holding back in any way..
It's better to take a chance at love than regretting not having taken a chance at all!
One recent conversation did put many things into perspective for me.. and that good feeling looking forward to hearing from or seeing that person again is always a great start :-)

"SMILE TO THE WORLD AND IT SMILES BACK TO YOU"

After an "eventful" weekend Monday comes..

I survived this weekend ...but only with some mistakes, drama and lack of sleep..and I know I have stepped on some toes and hurt someone's feelings..unintentionally of course..

Let's start from the beginning..and that was on Thursday when my best friend came to visit me for a long weekend. I had to sneak out from the Anatomy lecture to pick up my friend at the train station with auntie Red slowing me down..and leaving details out..
We decided on cooking at home instead of going out for dinner...and on the menu was Vietnamese cooking: Soup, Vietnamese tapas, fruit cocktail with ice cream and some wine.
We invited a dear friend of mine that was totally wrong if he expected the food to be ready and served..oh no, cause my friend put him to work helping out preparing dinner, LOL
The best company and great food makes a perfect evening!! :-)

I had no school on Friday so we had all day to just catch up and enjoy each others company. No need to bore everyone all with details but on the schedule was "The Annual Food Festival" at Aker Brygge where we tasted a lot of delicious Norwegian food, "The Book Festival" on Karl Johan where we fetched some freebies as well, a concert we didn't have time to go to and also a night out with "New To Oslo".
We got invited to dinner at my friend's uncle's place where we  had some delicious
Vietnamese Duck and meat soup with a tasty cake and red wine.
We still managed to go out that evening with the intention to join others at "Sosialen".. just to experience that it was very crowded there since we got there so late, but on the bright side, there was lots of good looking guys to rest our eyes on...and lots of people to socialize with.
My friend was recognized by someone that came over and asked if her name was... just when she answered him he walked away..so she didn't get to know the name of the guy who knew her..oh well..LOL
All of a sudden someone I couldn't place at first passed by us..I had to wave and he came over to talk and then I remembered that he was someone I dated a few times. Please don't think I date so much I don't remember them but it all happened so quickly while I was having a conversation with someone else. While I was chatting with this guy another woman new just interfered and started talking to him...like she didn't know he was having a conversation with me??
I know and have seen guys doing that if they wanna talk to a woman but this was the first I ever experienced a woman doing that, LOL.. I sat there watching it happen and another guy next to us told me I should just get the guys attention or else he would tell the girl to back off..I didn't want to make a scene but as soon as I looked at the guy he saw the chance to turn away from the other woman...quite funny if you ask me, like if it mattered to me who talked to who but there's somethings you just don't do and that's to break up a conversation..at least that's my opinion..

We got a pretty early start on Saturday and met up with some guys that were having lunch...one a writer with a hangover and the other just visiting Oslo for the weekend...and before we knew it with had a personal driver, a nice tapas dinner and company for the rest of the day.
We decided to have some drinks at my place and invited some guys over.. and a little later the ciders and vodka bottle was empty and time to head out.
Then it got complicated...and I should know, but always forget that it's hard to please everyone when deciding on which bar to go to so in the middle of the street we had to split into 2 groups...I went with someone and my friend went with someone else without even having a cellphone on her and not knowing the streets of Oslo. We were supposed to meet up with here but she didn't have a great time where she was and ended up going to the bar where I was. It was more going one there and more lively.. lots of people to chat with..and me starting a conversation with a tall gentleman (X) wasn't so popular by someone else in our company and I stepped on someone's feeling just by being myself and socialize that I normally do. I haven't been out partying in a long time so it was really nice to just have some drinks, a good time and chat with people..just saying it was good I didn't have much to drink or else I could have made more damage...I was only being myself and having a good time without knowing I was starting to ruin someone's evening and that person to walked away pretty upset with me, without a goodbye and leaving me kinda speechless...something that happens rarely.
I never want to hurt anyone's feelings and being put in a corner about it all wasn't fun..in the middle of the street after midnight...with a phone with a dead battery so I couldn't even say sorry or explain myself :-(
The night went on regardless, with a cab ride to another bar where we stayed until closing time..with stomachs that were killing us from a day of almost no food. X ended up taking us for an after midnight meal before walking us home.. and finally in bed @ 5 am sending an apologizing SMS before snoozing off.

Sunday morning was tough after a long weekend and almost no food, feeling kinda sick and my friend giving me grief for not asking for X's number since she thought I should have stayed in touch with him...and to quiet her I showed her I could get the number if I used my investigation skills..
Give this blonde girl some credit, ha ha....what I did with the info I got you can just wonder...;-)
Sunday slowly ended and we had to say goodbye. I just hope it won't be long until her and I get to have some crazy fun again..girl-time rocks!!!!

I'm back..

And I thought this was gonna be easy but I'm almost never here..and I  want to put down my thoughts and sometimes frustrations, but I'm usually too tired to do it and will do so the next day and then week after week goes by..

Anyhow..here I am with a few minutes to spare in the middle of the night before going back to sleep.
Note to myself: You don't get a good night's sleep on the couch with all the lights on... I just did it again. I've been so tired the last few weeks...falling asleep while trying to study and going to sleep early and waking up late, like I can't get enough sleep.

I wanted to write about dating but I think I have forgot most of my thoughts about that.
It hasn't been a lot of it lately since I have been focusing on other things instead, like school and studying.
You see....I met this really nice guy that I hit it off with and had a great time with him. We talked everything about and a lot in common. We went out to eat a few times, went out of the city for the day and he even made me delicious dinner...so you will think: this sounds promising!
Hmmm...well.. until he started to send me so many SMS I thought I would triple my phone bill if I would only answer half of them!
Don't get me wrong I do like attention but if I can't catch my breath in between then it's way too much! I was getting SMS and Viber messages all day long and sometime 3 or more before I had  time to read them or even reply...and if I didn't answer I was asked why and if I was angry. I tried to explain that sometimes I'm busy with work, friends or sleeping, charging my phone, eating or not checking my phone every minute and more...and then I got "sorry" so many times I lost count and questions about what did I think of him and us and when were we gonna see each other again.
I have never met anyone like that, on the verge of being needy or desperate, not sure which one..
Men are usually the total opposite. It was way too much until the point I got really annoyed and didn't feel like meeting again.
I had to admit to him that I didn't like the constant "nagging" and even though I really enjoyed spending time with him I wasn't sure if it could go any further than friendship. Of course that wasn't what he wanted to heareand he said that we had to end it there....
I got a few quiet days until he started contacting me again promising me less text messages and a fresh start..
The story is that this have been about a month ago and I haven't seen this person since but he sure doesn't give up...and I'll see if I'll give him another chance to prove me wrong about him.

Most of us women want a man that's totally into you and has no problems showing it...BUT it can be too much, and I got to experience that...something that is more of a turnoff than flattering.
I got all the air kicked out of me with that one and needed a breather so no dating the last month.
Nowadays I'm busy with school so dating isn't a first priority but unless I wanna be single forever I better get back out there in the dating world...
On a second thought..I know the answer:
I should offer all my time and invest myself full hearted to Mr.Anatomy!!!
That's where my focus should be and not on men who are either needy, desperate, too arrogant, too young or too old, don't focus on personal hygiene, have only one thing in mind, got way too much baggage, have feelings for an ex-girlfriend or that can't put past relationships behind them and the list goes on.....ugh!
But don't give up hope, right? LOL

"A SMILE IS A CURVE THAT SETS EVERYTHING STRAIGHT"